Hi, WELCOME to my blog. My name is Ita D. Azly. I am a consulting psychologist. It is a family practice of psychology with an emphasis on consultative, wellness, and psycho-educational approaches. Being a professional helper has been my calling since ever. I perform psychological counseling for individuals, couples and families. Kindly contact me at this e-mail address: counsel.ita@gmail.com


Enjoy your visit. Wish you find insightful journey for your life enrichment. Take care and all the best.

What is counseling?

At times, we feel stressed-out, depressed, angry, anxious, or confused. Sometimes these problems gradually go away on their own or they get better with the support of our friends and family. However, there are other times when these problems can cause major disruptions in our lives and/or they are too difficult to talk about with our family and friends. It is at these times when one should seek out professional help.In general, counseling is a process where a trained professional helps someone deal with problems related to personal, career, relationship, marriage and family concerns.

The client collaborates with the counselor to define problems he/she wishes to address and to find solutions to these problems. Although, one's experience in counseling will vary depending on that person's unique goals, some of the things you can expect from counseling include:
- Talking with someone who will listen without criticism or
judgment
- Talking with someone who will keep what you say private
and confidential
- Establishing a positive, trusting relationship with a
professional focused on making meaningful changes in your
life
- Learning to gain greater control over your thoughts and
feelings
- Identifying your concerns and exploring new ways to deal
with them

Most people come to counseling sessions once per week for about 60 minutes. During these sessions, the counselor and the client will continuously collaborate on the goals of the client, monitor the progress toward these goals, modify goals if necessary, and work toward positive changes.

Kamis, 21 Februari 2008

MAKING THE MOST OF PSYCHOLOGICAL CONSULTATION

The other day, a client came into my office and sat down in the rocking chair, she crossed her arms and asked, "Well, what do you want me to talk about today?"

Her response reminds me that many clients of professional consultation, particularly psychological consultation, do not know how to use the consultant's time. Paula's questions reveals her belief that the consultant is in complete charge of the relationship, can read her mind, and has ready advice for every contingency.
It is understandable that people put this much power into the hands of their consultants. If you have a problem that is overwhelming, it somehow feels safer to let someone else be in charge of the solution.

The problem is that you the client have to make the decisions about your life and work. As Harry Truman said, "The buck stops here." No one other than yourself can ultimately decide your proper course of action.
Psychologists know from our research that people will take credit for their successes and blame someone else for their failures. What most people don't realize is that if you are brave enough to take full responsibility for all of your decisions, whether or not they were guided by a consultant, you have much more of a chance of success.
Because you are noticing all of your little and big failures along the way, you stand a better chance of correcting the problems before a crisis erupts.

Too often I am confronted with clients who have waited until the top has blown off. They are desperate. They want immediate solutions. They often get disgruntled with the consultative process because we are taking time to repair damage before we can move to more proactive work. If as the client you are ready to face your weaknesses as well as your strengths, if you are ready to admit your ignorance, the consultant can step in sooner to help you.
If you view each failure as only feedback, you will be operated as the cybernetic system you were designed to be. Get your Ego out of the way. Admit your ignorance. Use skills creatively. Be open to solutions that at first sound ridiculous. They may sound ridiculous because you haven't had time to expand your consciousness to include new ideas.

The consultant's job, if they are doing their job, is more process oriented than task oriented. While you may want the advice or labor of your consultant regarding tasks that you are not skilled to handle, the consultant can help you best by getting you to think and use your own talents toward the solution.
Your lawyer cannot write up a will without knowing your wishes specifically. Your CPA cannot advise on investment of even tax planning without understanding your financial objectives. Your psychologist cannot guide you in tricky interpersonal problems without knowing how you feel.

Knowing that you are really the decision-maker makes it a lot easier to take charge of the consultative process and ask the questions that need asking. Don't be afraid to ask a stupid question.

Slow your consultant down and ask for clear explanations and rationale for their recommendations. The psychologist is an expert in her field and may not realize that you don't understand her jargon or thought process. You are paying the psychologist for her education, knowledge and expertise, and to help you make the best decision for yourself and your family.

Finally, if you are going to benefit by the use of a consultant, be prepared to do some hard work. Change is not an easy process. Just as when you first learned to drive a car, you have to be aware of every little move if you are to change your behavior. Now, driving a car is so automatic that your rarely remember the time between putting the key into the ignition and arriving at your destination. But at one time it took every ounce of concentration you had to master the ignition, the clutch, the rearview mirror, the brakes, the accelerator, the odometer, and so on.
The psychologist/consultant assists and guides in the process of change, but it is up to you to do the work. It is also up to you to refine the advice of your consultant to fit your unique situation. Things may sound good on paper, but in practice may need a little modification.
Psychologists know from our research that if too much time lapses between the consultation and taking action, the person will not do the required work in order to change. Take the time to put into practice what your consultant and you have decided. Notice where it works and where it doesn't. Then keep modifying until you have a system that fits you perfectly.

Psychological consultation is probably the most intricate form of consultation you will engage in. The psychologist can open your thinking in directions you never thought of before.

Copyright © 2000 Kathy J. Marshack, Ph.D., P.S.

Kathy J. Marshack, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist with over twenty-five years of experience as a marriage & family therapist.
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Sabtu, 02 Februari 2008

Welcome to Your Crisis

"Welcome to Your Crisis" - How to Use The Power of Crisis to Create the Life You Want. It's a book titled written by Laura Day. One of inspiring books I need to read this weekend. I will share to you as soon as I finished reading it.
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